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Build Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem to Live Your Best Life and Achieve Your Goals

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Life is a struggle when you're not confident or dealing with self-esteem issues. You may get stuck in dead-end jobs, toxic relationships, poor health, and patterns that don't satisfy. Your dreams may seem like far-fetched fantasies and your bucket list too ambitious for one person to manage.

It's important to realize you live in a world of endless possibilities – and the only one who can get in your way is you. It's never too late to build the life of your dreams. You'd be surprised at how big a difference simple changes you make right now have down the road. Here are some self-confidence and self-esteem building guidelines from the pros at Official Fitness and Health:

Change Your Attitude

Beliefs are important. They influence the way you act and your way of being, which ultimately shapes your life and health, as Prudence Sinclair can attest. If you think you can, you can. If you think you can't, on the other hand, you can't. As such, it's important to remain hopeful, think you can, and banish self-defeating and self-sabotaging thoughts. It's okay to be negative once in a while, but don't get stuck there.

Transform Your Mental Inner Voice

Your inner voice can be your worst critic or your best friend. It can give you the push you need to get one extra set in – or it can convince you to give up early and go home. Imagine what your best friend would say to you when things get hard and then follow their advice. Learn to be your own best friend and support.

Consistently Set and Achieve Small Goals

Self-confidence is the belief that you can do, achieve, or be something. But how do you know for sure you can or can't? The answer is through experience, trying things first-hand, and getting to know yourself better.

Setting and achieving small goals is an excellent way to find your limits and push past them. Just like when you start small and move up when building muscles, achieve minor goals to teach yourself the consistent discipline you need to achieve bigger ones.

Start a New Fitness Routine

With a strong body, you look good and move well. Work is easier and you have more energy. Essentially, having a good body can be incredibly good for your self-confidence. That's why a fitness routine should ideally be a part of your routine if it isn't already. Some fun and supremely effective exercises, Harvard Health says, are walking, Kegel, strength training, tai chi, and swimming.

Balance Work and Life More

Do you work to live or live to work? Work is important, but it's a part of life, not the entirety of it. Make sure you have enough time for rest, entertainment, and learning. Without a good work-life balance, you'll have difficulty summoning energy and drive.

Work-life can be hardest to achieve when you're in a position of responsibility – such as a manager with other people relying on you. Still, it's important to find ways to let off steam and relieve stress. It's the only sustainable way. Take downtime at work more, draw boundaries when you're off duty, go for walks to stay fit, work remotely to keep things fresh, and always make guilt-free use of your vacation days.

Eat Better

You are what you eat. Your food intake influences many things – your moods, looks, energy levels, and your physical, emotional, and mental health. By adjusting your diet, you'll have an easier time building a healthy body and thinking constructively. Healthline offers a simple, non-drastic diet and nutrition guide you can follow.


True self-confidence takes time to build. You didn't learn to walk in a day. There are no shortcuts. It requires facing your fears and learning to be there for yourself and your loved ones through thick and thin. You will falter and you will fall, but choose to keep going and never stop believing in yourself. You know you've arrived when you have the wherewithal to face everything life throws at you with your head held high.